Subtitle: How to think about earthquakes in a way that protects your mental health A total of 3093 earthquakes with a magnitude of four or above have struck within 300 km (186 mi) of Ibaraki, Japan in the past 10 years. This comes down to a yearly average of 309...
Continue reading...Where Are You on the Wave?
I have no nautical experience—slow-moving ferries in calm waters make me seasick! But I kind of get how they work from watching movies like “The Perfect Storm.” So, here’s a wave metaphor for you… Recognizing the Wave If you are going through something, like a messy divorce, the sickness of...
Continue reading...Guest Spot on the Deep Listening Podcast with Oscar Trimboli
Here was my question to Oscar Trimboli, host of the Deep Listening Podcast: Do you have any suggestions about how to continue to listen deeply as a leader when you tend to receive comments, suggestions, and ideas from so many people all day every day? It can be quite surprising...
Continue reading...Guest Spot on The Coaching Inn with Claire Pedrick from 3D Coaching
What an absolute TREAT to be invited to join Claire Pedrick at The Coaching Inn to record a podcast about my coaching journey so far. And what an honour to have my episode associated with International Coaching Week! Some background: In January 2023, I decided to seek training as a...
Continue reading...Your Best Thinking Doesn’t Help
When we get ourselves into situations where we are unhappy and we need things to improve, there are three places we can live: in our beliefs, in our thoughts, or in our actions. I almost always live in my thoughts. I can often figure things out, given enough time, so...
Continue reading...Admit it. You are wrong.
When I was in middle school, I showed up to class one day without doing my homework. I rarely did homework because I just couldn’t be bothered to do it, and if a teacher didn’t regularly check, I didn’t see any point in doing it. However, this one day, a...
Continue reading...Your Inner Voice has the Power to Change the World
There is a voice inside all of our heads, and that voice has the ability to change the world. We go around listening to this voice all day. It gives us a running commentary on our internal and external reality. We hear this voice when we do something stupid and...
Continue reading...You are (Probably) Terrible at Giving Advice
I used to think that I was very good at giving advice. I would meet up with friends, we would share our issues, and we would give each other advice about what we should do about our problems. I thought this was what it looked like to be a good friend, but I have recently realized that I may not have been as good a friend as I thought I was.
Continue reading...The Uncomfortable Art of Letting Go
My character traits of tenacity (less flatteringly: stubbornness) and self-reliance have gotten me pretty far. The challenge for me is learning to let go and ask for help.
Continue reading...Self-Pity is the Enemy of Integrity
Self-pity makes us live beyond our values, which makes it difficult for us to live with integrity, and therefore impossible to gain peace and serenity.
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