I have come to think of my eyes and my attention as one of my most important assets, so I try not to let things come into my sight that will steal my focus. One way I do this is by trying to make my inbox right-sized.
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Finding Unexpected Clarity
Coaching is not about consulting with an expert, and it’s not about processing your past. It’s forward-oriented and focused on where you want to go, not where you have been.
Continue reading...Living with Integrity
I know what the word “integrity” means, but I don’t think I understood clearly what it meant to “live with integrity” until recently.
Continue reading...Getting Out of My Own Way
In August 2022, one of my colleagues introduced me to the concept of coaching. Everyone knows what a coach of a sports team does, but this was different. He was talking about a coach who works with you in your workplace to become better at what you do.
Continue reading...Leave Some Space Around It
As a workaholic, I have a tendency to forget to put white space around my time and energy, in particular. I will use up these resources right until the last drop and not leave any extra for later, like I somehow believe that time doesn’t apply to me, or that I have limitless energy.
Continue reading...Small Commitments to Action
I like the idea of making small commitments to action rather than large, wide-ranging, and ill-defined resolutions (e.g. “lose weight”, “be happier”, “make more money”). I think that taking small, concrete actions over a longer amount of time is more likely to get me moving in the right direction.
Continue reading...How to Divorce Your Phone
The key point here is that you need to start by having a conversation with yourself about WHY you want to spend less time on your phone. If you can figure that part out, the rest of it has a chance to fall in place. Without the why, all of the tricks and tips in the world probably won’t help.
Continue reading...Simplicity, Simplicity, Simplicity!
Last year, I gave myself a goal: Chase serenity. I want to keep that as my main focus for 2023, but I will aim to get myself to a more serene state by focusing on simplicity this year. I think that simplicity will lead to serenity.
Continue reading...Chase Serenity
In 2021, when I started on my journey of recovery from food addiction, the serenity prayer was reintroduced to me in the context of addiction. I had never thought about the connections between addiction and serenity, courage, and wisdom before. I thought addiction was just about the substance, and I didn’t realize that it’s our thoughts that bring us to addiction, and that serenity, courage, and wisdom could help get us out of it.
Continue reading...All We Need is… Reassurance?
I recently read that what people really want is reassurance. We want to know that we are going to be okay. (I don’t know if that is true or not. It certainly has a truthy ring to it.)
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