I have no nautical experience—slow-moving ferries in calm waters make me seasick! But I kind of get how they work from watching movies like “The Perfect Storm.” So, here’s a wave metaphor for you… Recognizing the Wave If you are going through something, like a messy divorce, the sickness of...
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Admit it. You are wrong.
When I was in middle school, I showed up to class one day without doing my homework. I rarely did homework because I just couldn’t be bothered to do it, and if a teacher didn’t regularly check, I didn’t see any point in doing it. However, this one day, a...
Continue reading...Your Inner Voice has the Power to Change the World
There is a voice inside all of our heads, and that voice has the ability to change the world. We go around listening to this voice all day. It gives us a running commentary on our internal and external reality. We hear this voice when we do something stupid and...
Continue reading...The Uncomfortable Art of Letting Go
My character traits of tenacity (less flatteringly: stubbornness) and self-reliance have gotten me pretty far. The challenge for me is learning to let go and ask for help.
Continue reading...Self-Pity is the Enemy of Integrity
Self-pity makes us live beyond our values, which makes it difficult for us to live with integrity, and therefore impossible to gain peace and serenity.
Continue reading...Living in a Fantasy World Where Dishes Do Themselves
I have never been fond of doing dishes. In fact, I don’t like doing anything that never gets permanently “done”, like making my bed, doing my laundry, cooking, or cleaning.
Continue reading...Making Email Right-Sized
I have come to think of my eyes and my attention as one of my most important assets, so I try not to let things come into my sight that will steal my focus. One way I do this is by trying to make my inbox right-sized.
Continue reading...Living with Integrity
I know what the word “integrity” means, but I don’t think I understood clearly what it meant to “live with integrity” until recently.
Continue reading...Leave Some Space Around It
As a workaholic, I have a tendency to forget to put white space around my time and energy, in particular. I will use up these resources right until the last drop and not leave any extra for later, like I somehow believe that time doesn’t apply to me, or that I have limitless energy.
Continue reading...Chase Serenity
In 2021, when I started on my journey of recovery from food addiction, the serenity prayer was reintroduced to me in the context of addiction. I had never thought about the connections between addiction and serenity, courage, and wisdom before. I thought addiction was just about the substance, and I didn’t realize that it’s our thoughts that bring us to addiction, and that serenity, courage, and wisdom could help get us out of it.
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