Once I gave myself the permission to start something, even if I thought it might be a stupid idea on some level, it cleared the way for me to start taking some baby steps towards talking about my idea, which has now, after a few weeks, resulted in me taking some action on furthering the idea.
Continue reading...Breathe, Listen, Don’t Try to Solve
My primary listening villain, as defined by Oscar Trimboli, is “The Interrupting Listener”. Or at least, that was my primary listening villain until a few months ago when I recognized what I was doing and actively tried to stop doing it. I think I have gotten better at not interrupting, but I still have work to do in this domain.
Continue reading...Making Sure Children Know They are Loved
You probably do lots of things for your children like cooking for them, buying them toys, and playing with them, so you think it must be obvious to them that they are loved, but it’s better not to assume that they understand this point.
Continue reading...Making Email Right-Sized
I have come to think of my eyes and my attention as one of my most important assets, so I try not to let things come into my sight that will steal my focus. One way I do this is by trying to make my inbox right-sized.
Continue reading...Finding Unexpected Clarity
Coaching is not about consulting with an expert, and it’s not about processing your past. It’s forward-oriented and focused on where you want to go, not where you have been.
Continue reading...Living with Integrity
I know what the word “integrity” means, but I don’t think I understood clearly what it meant to “live with integrity” until recently.
Continue reading...Getting Out of My Own Way
In August 2022, one of my colleagues introduced me to the concept of coaching. Everyone knows what a coach of a sports team does, but this was different. He was talking about a coach who works with you in your workplace to become better at what you do.
Continue reading...Leave Some Space Around It
As a workaholic, I have a tendency to forget to put white space around my time and energy, in particular. I will use up these resources right until the last drop and not leave any extra for later, like I somehow believe that time doesn’t apply to me, or that I have limitless energy.
Continue reading...Small Commitments to Action
I like the idea of making small commitments to action rather than large, wide-ranging, and ill-defined resolutions (e.g. “lose weight”, “be happier”, “make more money”). I think that taking small, concrete actions over a longer amount of time is more likely to get me moving in the right direction.
Continue reading...How to Divorce Your Phone
The key point here is that you need to start by having a conversation with yourself about WHY you want to spend less time on your phone. If you can figure that part out, the rest of it has a chance to fall in place. Without the why, all of the tricks and tips in the world probably won’t help.
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